I disrespect Women because I’ve been taught to

“I disrespect Women because I’ve been taught to” now that sound like ridiculous excuse & cause for women & the disrespect the suffer. Some find it beyond laughable, that everyone makes up their own mind & that no such influence exists. The reality of such a statement is:   that what’s true for some is not true for all. The environment around us does hold a strong role in our growth & development, it does have the potential to form us. Women are often put in a sub category, & men are taught sexist ideals, along with the prohibition of showing feelings, emotions, softness,  fear or debility. We change pre set gender roles and fight the ugly side affects such as the disrespect of women & the violence against them.  We can not let a negative popular culture grow.

LOVE IS RESPECT , REMEMBER WE ARE ALL HUMAN BEINGS.

Taking a Stand Against Practices That Harm Women

About traditions and cultural practices that hurt women. Forced, arranged marriages & genital mutilation among the list.

“GENDER EQUALITY TAKING A STAND AGAINST PRACTICES THAT HARM WOMEN” FROM http://www.unfpa.org/

Throughout the world, practices that undermine the well-being of women endure. But like slavery and foot-binding, they constitute egregious violations of basic human rights.

• At least 130 million women have been forced to undergo female genital mutilation/cutting. Another 2 million are at risk each year from this degrading and dangerous practice.
• Killings in the name of ‘honour’  take the lives of thousands of young women every year, mainly in Western Asia, North Africa and parts of South Asia.
• Forced early marriage of young girls or adolescents is another practice that can cause lifelong psychological as well as physical problems, especially those resulting from early childbearing.

In most industrialized societies, although gender-based violence is officially condemned, it persists, implicitly sanctioned by messages in mass media.

In some developing countries, practices that subjugate and harm women – such as wife-beating, killings in the name of honour, female genital mutilation/cutting and dowry deaths – are condoned as being part of the natural order of things. Throughout much of Asia, a preference for male children results in the neglect and sometimes infanticide of girls, or their elimination by abortion in places where prenatal tests are available to determine the sex of the foetus.

And as conflicts among ethnic groups rage, women and girls have increasingly become pawns of war, and face rape and forced pregnancies. FGM/FGC, coerced sex and early marriage are also factors in the spread of HIV to women.

Eradicating long-standing traditional practices does not happen overnight. One way to begin, though, is by information and advocacy that raises public awareness and changes the climate of public opinion.

“Consensus-building around social issues is extremely difficult, because it touches the identity of nations, communities and individuals. Discussion of social questions polarizes viewpoints and may seem to widen the gap between cultures. But in the end, the overriding social purpose concentrates our minds and enables us to bridge all cultural gaps-not because we want to go home with an agreed form of words, but because all of us, each in our own way, want to save people’s lives.”

—UNFPA Executive Director Thoraya Ahmed Obaid

THE TITTLE OF THIS KOREAN MOVIE IS “THE CHILD BRIDE” About a family that is to wed their children in order to keep a promise to their grandfather.

Mothers, Sisters, wives,daughters in Pain : Types of Violence Against Women Worldwide

Domestic Violence is well know, but the fact is that there various ugly, horrific types of violence plaguing women around the world. Today is international day stop violence against women & so I would like to celebrate & recognize the cause with some posts.

TYPES OF VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN

*Domestic violence

* female genital mutilation

*Dating violence

* Emotional & verbal abuse

*Sexual assault

* War & Militarism produces special environments that allow for increased violence against women.

* Kidnapping, forced Sexual slavery & Trafficking.

* In some societies women are Publicly humiliated, ostracized & punished for deviating from the norm. This may include lynching. These women are considered “damaged goods”

*Women in some societies are punished as well for being rape victims, or HIV positive. They are forced into unsafe abortions.

* Marital Rape

*Sexual harassment in the work place.

* Women are threatened by husband with: deportation, custody of children, and financial power.

Woman stages a demonstration  calling on all of society to protect and respect women’s legal rights and human dignity in Beijing.

Man dangles his girlfriend out the window during a police confrontation. The police were called  due to a dispute between the couple

Disrespect in Relationships: I don’t want it anymore

Rihanna’s “Russian Rullet” says I’ll endure, I’ll stick around. LeToya Lucket’s says ENOUGH!. It’s over. I don’t want it Anymore.

NOV 25: International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women

Tomorrow will be International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women.

“By resolution 54/134 of 17 December 1999, the General Assembly designated 25 November as the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women, and invited governments, international organizations and NGOs to organize activities designated to raise public awareness of the problem on that day. Women’s activists have marked 25 November as a day against violence since 1981. This date came from the brutal assassination in 1960, of the three Mirabal sisters, political activists in the Dominican Republic, on orders of Dominican ruler Rafael Trujillo (1930-1961). “-http://www.un.org/Depts/dhl/violence/

READ THE DECLARATION on THE ELIMINATION of  VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN

“Recognizing the urgent need for the universal application to women ofthe rights and principles with regard to equality, security, liberty,integrity and dignity of all human beings,”

http://daccess-dds-ny.un.org/doc/UNDOC/GEN/N94/095/05/PDF/N9409505.pdf?OpenElement

SUPPORT THIS MOVEMENT & IT’S EFFORTS WEAR YOUR WHITE RIBBON NOV 25

Celebrating TomBoy Fabulous

There’s no bigger satisfaction & triumph, no greater high than shattering the status quo.  And so, Today we celebrate & pay tribute , to  the Tomboy LifeStyle. The dictionary defines Tomboy as :a girl who behaves in a manner usually considered boyish.  Tomboydom has always been a pretty controversial subject. Back in olden times women where bounded & restricted by inflexible rules laid out by society. Women were expected to explicitly conform to a definite form of dress & behavior that was deemed suitable & pleasing to society.

The slightest deviation was considered, disturbing, scandalous, & most certainly immensely reprehensible.  Now a days while things have come to change & advance gradually over time, there are still countries  in which straying  from a set feminine model is strongly discouraged.   In some societies it is still intolerable & offensive for a  woman to : wear pants, work, participate in sports, have a career (especially those fields which are mainly comprised  by men), be a student, ….  & The list goes on. The main goal behind all this to keep a woman in a defenseless, submissive, lesser state & rank. The motive? A mistaken belief that women were by law of nature born to be less, because they are the weaker sex.  Believe it or not there are laws that are specifically design &  adamantly , and fervently  upheald to make sure women remain affixed , and confined to a preset label & all that comes along with it. While some countries are not subject to  such laws they still struggle with the heavy influence of stereotypical female standards & ideals.

Though,  in the end in the latter countries it is up to the individual to make up their own mind on how they should dress. Some times being a tomboy can mean being stigmatized  as  : unsightly , odd, dirty, crude, irrational, & of course unfeminine.  The true inspiration  behind the tomboy vibe is,  a very unique, bold , and cool attitude. Those who embrace & represent the tomboy style believe  that a girl should be able to feel & project strength.  They reject the ideas that: exhibiting your body  is indispensable  to being  & feeling  attractive, sexy .  Or that you have to display overtly or gratuitously girly behavior to  validate your  femininity. They denounce the thought that a woman’s most practical, and useful tools are her looks . Tomboys are those with enough self esteem to say ” HEY!  Take a second  look  & realize what is really before you. This is a woman.”  The TomboyLife style wants to break free from the fiercely  propagated stereotype of a “girly girl” who loves to shop, who’s thoughts have little value or merit. Who is easily frightened,  who’s mind , body , & psyche  is meek, feeble and weak.

A cool thing about being a tomboy is that when you do decide to turn up the “girliness”, you really turn heads.  Because you have levels & gradients . You’re attractive, appealing,  intresting & that much more alluring then just being a girl who is easy & obvious. There are many levels of Tomboy. Some girls are hardcore while others have adopted a girly/ tomboy look.  It doesn’t matter how or how often you rock the Tomboy style  as long as you represent.  The tomboy life style is not just about dress, it’s about taking a whole new approach to being a girl.  About being dynamic, active, intrepid, imperative,  intense…. It’s about : self respect,  confidence, self love, feeling and being undeniably  formidable &  passionate.  Contrary  to popular belief Tomboys are not pushing away their femininity, but rather embracing it way better than any so-called “girl girl” ever could.

A lot of times you’ll hear things like “Oh, I was going through my Tomboy phase.” “Oh I grew out of my tomboy look.” Sometimes  celebrities who get labeled  as having a tomboy look will end up saying such things.  Why? Why should it like that? They say it like it was a mistake or something embarrassing. Why should you have to regret or leave Tomboydom behind?  When a star goes through such a “change” it is widely publicized & the female celeb is treated  like new & improved product.  Just because she’s  now girly enough for them now.

TOMBOY GALLERY

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Talk Trash, I’m going to Thrash(Girl Skaters)

Check out these awesome videos of sick girl skaters!

ALL GOOD SKATERS KNOW THAT THERE’S DAYS WHEN LUCK IS JUST NOT ON YOUR SIDE. ON THOSE DAYS IT’S BETTER TO JUST PACK IT IN, MEDITATE ON THAT RUN,  &  PREPARE  FOR ANOTHER DAY. THESE GIRLS  HAD ONE THING & ONE THING ONLY ON THEIR MINDS

NEVER SAY DIE!

Rihanna’s Good Morning America Interview

“This happened to me, I didn’t cause this.”

“Even, if Chris never hit me again, whose to say that their boyfriend won’t,

whose to say that won’t kill these girls, & these are  young girls.”

“I didn’t realize how much of an impact I had on these girls lives.”

Girl Power Soundtrack: Song #8

Way fun upbeat song about kicking butt to the max in all you do, & Ignoring /disproving the naysayers, haters & downers!  SONG: If I had it my way, ARTIST: Emma Roberts.

Cool Quotes from Women

Today’s quote was uttered by Lisa Landry(Jackée Harry) in an episode of “Sister Sister”,  when she was  taking her first shot at selling her own fashion creations. Throughout the episode her landlord & friend Ray gives her advice, boasting that he is already a successful business man. He forewarns of how tough it can be to start a business & that she must have all the right tools , otherwise she can fail. Lisa successfully manages to sell a dress on her first try, but then later finds out that Ray had been keeping it a secret that the customer brought it  back. When she finds the dress in the closet, Ray’s explanation is : “Well, I didn’t want to burst your bubble.”   Her response:

“Who gave you permission to protect my bubble? My bubble’s not in trouble! If I’m chocking then you can give the Heimlich .”

Whether this was written with that meaning or not, it reminds me of how often times, women are thought of as weak & sensitive. For some it’s a rule or law of nature that women should & need to be protected  from strong emotions & complicated situations otherwise , their feelings or psyche  might be hurt.